Exam is an assessment of your learning don’t let yourself get affected to an extent that it harms you mentally. Anxiety is expected but don’t let it change into stress. Being parents you have a vital role to play. Help your child understand the importance of exam but not through fear but through a healthy practice of self-examination.
Why to pressurize your child!!
According to a research, the parents who put too much pressure on their child make them unkind, anxious and socially awkward. The pressure to get good grades and perform well in hobbies often comes at the expense of the child learning. Pressured children are likely to have lower self-esteem and are more likely to ‘act out’.
Understand your child
As a parent, there are few pleasures greater than your child succeeding at school. However, if you are putting too much pressure on your children to do well academically, it can backfire severely and end up affecting them negatively in a number of different ways. Giving time to them and understanding them would help the parents to get to know about their strengths and weaknesses.
Know your part
Your job as a parent is to help your child achieve the optimal balance between being too relaxed and being paralyzed by anxiety. Try to listen, absorb, and contain the distress of your child through affirmation and reassurance. Make sure they know that their worth to you and others is separate from their achievements.
Important things to guide your child
Engaging with challenging experiences such as finals and important exams is essential for young people to develop internal skills and resources, and will provide them with the confidence and emotional resilience needed to cope with the future challenges of work and adult life.
Nurture your child’s interest
Your child is always doing something competitive that may not be directly related to the exam. He may be taking part in sports, school shows, quiz competitions or elocutions. Whatever the activity encourages your child will nurture his interest. Similarly, do not criticize his choice of favourite subject in the curriculum.
Let your child know how much you believe in them. Don’t sugarcoat your compliments, though as your child is old enough to figure out whether you’re being sincere or not. Tell them what’s in your heart in a way a parent should: with love and a bit of teasing so they won’t feel more pressure than what’s necessary.
Worry, Worry, Worry
By having a parent lay pressure on them to succeed, a child can feel less inspired and more threatened. It is possible that they will place further blame for their bad feelings on themselves for not being smart enough, therefore causing more stress and anxiety. If your child expresses any worrisome signs of stress pertaining to schoolwork, you need to speak with them about how they’re feeling and help them to feel better through
Be There For Your Kids
If you want to help your children do well in school, you need to encourage, rather than pressure them. By offering encouragement through means such as assisting with schoolwork and discussing different ideas and concepts, you can help spark inspiration in your child. If you believe you might be putting too much pressure on your child to
succeed academically, don’t beat yourself up. Instead, just take a moment to speak to your children openly about how they don’t need to stress themselves out about school. Make sure your child knows you are interested in their work and that you will be proud if they do well.